It is disappointing that we are unable to have a conversation based on mutual trust.

(1) I believe it’s something to be grateful for when someone thinks of me and engages in conversation with me. I’ve even learned that receiving holiday greetings from strangers can be a welcome moment. Even if it’s a very simple task or a text that only superficially conveys emotion, I believe that treating the writer’s true feelings as sincere—without doubt—can help create a warmer world.

(2) “Yes, and…”: A conversational technique that builds on positivity. It’s a communication method that helps with ideation and forming opinions by drawing out positive ideas in a chain reaction. Because I believe in the power of positivity, I try my best not to be negative in conversations. Since I can’t possibly know everything about the world, I assume that even in small groups, among individuals, or regarding personal preferences, there will be differences. While not everyone can be positive, I know that people often feel flustered when a negative edge is cast over a positive statement. There are moments when firmness is necessary, but I don’t consider this to be negativity.

It was a brief conversation, but I could see (or at least felt) that a lot of emotions were exchanged. {Thought 1} Why would someone say a message I conveyed sincerely wasn’t sincere, and why would they insist it was a lie even when I insisted it was sincere? This raised questions and made me reflect on the way I convey my sincerity. {Thought 2} Was I not being sincere? Let’s examine the text under that assumption. If it were me, I would feel grateful regardless of whether it was sincere or not. After all, this text was written for me. {Thought 3} Should I feel grateful even for text written by a robot (AI or other automated systems)? Fortunately, they aren’t yet deeply integrated into our lives. And in KakaoTalk conversations, don’t we know that the other person is human? I believe it’s right to express gratitude for someone’s effort and resources.

Based on what we exchanged during our brief conversation (though my feelings were anything but brief), I couldn’t understand your attitude—specifically, your failure to express gratitude. I don’t know if this is a difference in perspective that can be overcome, or a difference in temperament that is difficult or impossible to bridge. But what I want to make clear is that if it’s a difference in temperament, I no longer have the strength to continue this conversation with you. I’ve invested a great deal of effort into overcoming differences in communication styles and have observed the results firsthand, so I’ve learned just how difficult this can be. In simple personal relationships, I simply don’t want to continue what’s often called “effort-intensive communication” due to differences in personality.